Dear Pastor,

I am a 14-year-old student attending a prominent high school. I started to have sex due to peer pressure. I heard all my friends talking about their boyfriends and how they treat them well. They said that sex is nice. I was not getting the love that I wanted from my family, so, I had to seek it somewhere else, which I did. I was played for a month by my boyfriend.

I went to the guy's house that I was dating. We tried to have sex. We took off our clothes and we started by kissing. We did it but we did not use a condom, his penis was just at the side of my vagina. I had a feeling that it was just out of the norm, so I told him to stop, just in time I saw semen running out of his penis on the bed. Then I started to cry.

The next relationship I had was with my boyfriend's cousin. Somewhere deep down I was not feeling my boyfriend. All of the feeling was based on the cousin. He has a wonderful body and his lips were like cherry. That was where I got fooled. He had other girls with me. But that was not all, he was also a blabber mouth.

We had sex. But I also remembered the feelings I had with my first boyfriend. We kissed a lot and that was great but somehow the two cousins realised that I was having relationship with the both of them.

Now I am dating a guy for a year and five months and God has I know I sound like someone with a low self-esteem.

S. J., St. Andrew, Jamaica

Dear S. J.,

How sad it was for me to read your letter. Here you are at 14 years old, going to a prominent high school, the name of which I deleted.

And you have had sexual relations with the two cousins and now going steady with another guy for a year and five months. Sad, sad, sad!

Pastor

What you are doing has nothing to do with not receiving love at home. You said that you got into sex because of peer pressure, that I am prepared to believe.

I wish that you would drop all these guys and concentrate on your lessons. Guys are not running away. They will always be around. What you need now is not men, you need an education. The time for sex is not now. If you move around with different men, you are going to give yourself a bad reputation and they are going to look at you and call you names. Some of the very guys you fool around may even call you a whore. So keep guys as social friends and nothing more.

Pastor