Dear Pastor:

I am a 19-year-old, second-year student at a university in Jamaica and I have a serious decision to make. I have been in a relationship with a guy for the past three weeks and he wants us to get married. He makes me happy and he is very goal- oriented. He is not a student but he is working. He seems to have a very bright future. He even wants to open a bank account in advance, so that it can help with the expenses on our wedding day.

I have been single for almost two years and the same applies for him. He is willing to accept any decision that I make. My feelings for him are growing stronger and he feels the same way. He is 22 and he behaves mature and responsible for his age.

Should I tell him to open the account? Not many young guys these days are interested in getting married. I am not expecting much but if we do last, I don't want to be sorry for not telling him to go ahead with it. I am waiting to hear your reply.

A. B., Manchester, Jamaica

Dear A. B.,

You do not know this guy well enough to encourage him to open an account for both of you. Three weeks is a very short time for a couple to be planning marriage. You need to keep this guy as a good friend but nothing more. Try your best not to become romantically involved with him. You may talk to him on the phone but it is not even wise to go out with him until you know more about him.

Pastor