Dear Pastor,

I am a 20-year-old woman living with my boyfriend. We have lived together for almost a year now and we are planning to get married. The thing is that I think he is cheating on me again with an oversize woman. He has done this twice but he said all those ladies he had sex with were one night stands.

He seemed sorry and I forgave him. He always comes home late, which he promised not to do again after what happened. I gave him all my trust because I love him.

Last night I found an underwear in my laundry bag with two used condoms in it. When I pulled it out the underwear looks like it belongs to a person weighing 350lb, which is twice my size. It also smells very frowzy.

I confronted him about it and he said maybe it was one of his friend's who had hung out with him and he left it underneath the bed.

The other day he went to work and I searched the house. I found his clothes all tied up in a bag.

When I took them out the stench of the clothes smelled like he was having sex. I don't know what to do. I feel like I want to throw him out of my house, rip all his cheap, fake clothes into little shreds and I am not sure of even getting married.

What do you think I should do?

D.D., St. Catherine, Jamaica

Dear D.D.,

I think you should dump the guy. He is not ready for a serious relationship. He is behaving as a fool and he is a nasty guy. And the woman he is fooling around with is not clean either. Run this man out of your life. What is a woman's dirty underwear doing under your bed? Did he take her to your house? And did she go home without wearing her underwear?

Pastor