Dear Counsellor:

I'm so ashamed, I have a sexually transmitted infection. Does this mean that I'm nasty? I only had sex twice with one man. I'm only 17 years old and I feel like a big burden is on me. The man I had sex with told me he will take me for treatment but I'm so afraid to look in the doctor's face.

Young Girl

Dear Young Girl:

Having a sexually transmitted infection doesn't make you 'bad' or 'dirty'. It does not mean that you can never have sex again or that there is anything wrong with you. What it does mean is that you have more reason to practice safer sex and take care of yourself. Some sexually transmitted infections (STIs) may lead to serious, even life-threatening, consequences if they're not treated promptly and correctly. That's why it is important for you to put shy aside and seek the treatment you need.

You must start practising safer sex. Safer sex will keep you from contracting another STI and prevent you from passing one to someone else. Since you feel uncomfortable about having an STI, it might help to talk to a trusted friend or a counsellor, or a school nurse if you are still in school.

For more information on condom use, HIV/AIDS and other sexually transmitted infections call the AIDS/STD Helpline at 967-3830, 967-3764 or toll free at 1888-991-4444 or write to:

AIDS Affairs

c/o the Star

7 North Street

Kingston.