Dear Pastor,

I would like you to give me some advice. I have known a guy for five years and three years ago things were going well until he changed. I found out that he was seeing someone else. He doesn't stay home anymore, he is always out with a particular girl and I am pregnant with his child.

I also found out that the other girl is pregnant as well. I am not sure if it is his child she is carrying, but I hope not. I am confused. Could you please help me or give me some advice? Thank you.

T. T., New York, U.S.A.

Dear T. T.,

Anything is likely to happen. This guy impregnated you and the other girl he is going with is also pregnant. It is likely that he is responsible for her pregnancy too.

You can't be sure but one day everything is going to be revealed. Yes, the truth will be known. Right now you have competition on your hand and you are going to have to be prepared to either share this man or let him go his way.Too bad you allowed him to get you pregnant although you realise that this man's attitude toward you had changed.

Every woman should learn that becoming pregnant for a man does not necessarily cause him to continue the relationship with her. So, my dear, I wish you the very best. Have a safe delivery and please don't get into any argument with the other woman with whom he is spending much of his time. Will he ever marry you? I really don't know.

Pastor