Dear Pastor,

Greetings to you in the mighty name of Jesus. I am a 30-year-old female who reads your column on a regular basis. The problem I am having is that I have been in a relationship for the past five years. This relationship has more potholes than the Jamaican roads. I am now engaged, but I am very afraid that these potholes may reappear.

He has been nicer than before and things are going as planned, but there is still a lack of trust in the back of my mind.

What are the questions or things that I can do to change this doubt in my mind?

J. L., St. Catherine, Jamaica

Dear J. L.,

If you have doubts in your mind about your man, do not marry him until both of you have had a series of counselling sessions with a family counsellor, and all the doubts are removed. I have repeatedly said that every good relationship is based on trust, respect and communication. When there is doubt, don't move one foot forward. Remember too, that you can never change a man. So you have to be very careful. Don't ever believe that you have the power to change him.

Pastor