Dear Pastor,

I am currently filing for my fiancé who lives in Jamaica. I have known him for many years because his sister cared for me as a child. I feel that this will work. The problem is that sometimes he keeps me out of the problems that he is going through. He says he doesn't want me to worry.

Do you think I should continue the papers? I have to admit he gives me feelings that I've never felt for any man I have dated before.

K.F., U.S.A

Dear K.F.,

What has this man done to cause you to want to stop the process of getting him to America? So many of you girls, the moment you have a little power, you exercise it the wrong way. Tell me, what has this man done? If he is having problems and he does not wish to share them with you, why should you feel upset about that? A mature person does not behave that way. Stop the nonsense girl.

The question is, do you love this man? If you love him, show it. If you don't love him, don't try to make a fool of him. Let him know early.

Pastor