Dear Pastor,

I am a 21-year-old young woman. I have two kids and I am in love with a man. He is almost 11 years my senior. The problem is that my two kids might not be his and I am scared to tell him. I asked one of the guys who could be the father to take a DNA test but he didn't want to do so. He said that some things are to be left alone. He also said that if it is proven that he is the father of the children, he doesn't want to have any part of their life.

I don't know what to do. I love my man. He takes good care of me. We have been seeing each other since I was a teenager.

Please help me. Tell me what I should do. Thank you.

K. W., Ontario, Canada

Dear K.W.,

You have been seeing this man since you was a teenager but you haven't been true to him. You are only with him for what you can get, that is financial support. You have been having sex with other men.

So many of you women like to condemn men and say they are bad and like to call them dogs because they have other women. But you women are no better. You give your bodies to other men even when you claim to love the men with whom you are living.

Try to get all the men to do paternity tests if you wish to have peace of mind. And please stop the playing/sleeping around.

Pastor