Dear Pastor,

I'm writing this letter because I'm concerned about a guy I used to talk to. I met him about five years ago in a club. He was a nice person, but he was always working, so I didn't date him that long. He always talked about his kids, which is a good thing.

A couple of weeks ago he started calling me at various hours in the nights. I told him that I have to go to work in the morning, so I can't talk to him right now and I hung up. He kept calling me until I got fed up and turned off my phone.

Early in the morning, he showed up at my door. I asked him what was his problem. He started screaming and shouting at me and saying "I love you man, why do you have to be with another man." I have only dated this man for two months. I don't know why he is even acting like that. I told him to calm down in a firm voice, and he said that I shouldn't talk to him like that. I told him that he needs help and I offered to take him to the hospital; however, he refused to go.

I don't know what to do with him. I just don't want him to go crazy on me or even worse hurt me. Please tell me what to do.

T. W., Toronto, Canada

Dear T.W.,

If this man continues to harass you, report him to the police or take out a restraining order against him. An attorney can deal with this matter easily for you.

Pastor