Dear Pastor,

I've been reading your articles for years and you have given people great advice. Keep it up, sir. Now, I have a little problem, sexually. I've been sexually active since I was 18 years old. I am now 25 and I do not have a steady man. I think this is so because I take a long time to reach an orgasm, over an hour. Every time I have sex, more than half the time I have to stop and just masturbate in order to ejaculate. I'm not enjoying sex.

I also get cramps below my navel, on both sides. I went to the doctor and he told me that nothing is wrong. He has given me pills for the cramps. I need a second opinion. What do you think?

H. M., Kingston, Jamaica

Dear H. M.,

A sex therapist would be able to tell you exactly what you should do to experience orgasm. Some women are non-orgasmic. You ought not to be too concerned about not experiencing orgasm. When you get married and have a steady sexual partner, things could be different. Right now you are allowing too many men to toy with your body. Your husband can be taught to bring you to a climax. It is not as difficult as you may think. So, please, stop allowing all these guys to have fun with you and leave you dry. It is going to affect you emotionally and psychologically.

Pastor