Dear Pastor,

I have been talking to a guy for the last couple of months. I really like him but the problem is all he wants is sex. He is nine years older than I am and before we got together I told him I was not ready for a sexual relationship. Right after we got together he started pressuring me for sex, so I broke off with him. Now, he keeps sending me text messages and he continues to call saying things like what he wants to do to me and what he wants me to do to him.

The problem is that I do want to be with him, even sexually but I don't want a relationship based only on sex. I also really don't want to take the risk of having sex with him and becoming pregnant. What should I do?

M. R., St. Fort Lauderdale, Florida

Dear M. R.,

My suggestion is that you do not renew the relationship with this young man. Don't even keep him as a social friend. He doesn't respect you. He is not a good man to have in your life.

Pastor