Dear Pastor,

I fell in love with a guy. At first, he was the best thing in my life. Time passed and things got very good between us. We would visit each other on weekends because this was the only time we could see each other. After a while, however, he changed. He stopped calling me and the only time I saw him was when he was passing by my house. I knew something was wrong so I talked to him about it and he told me he was going through a bad time. I told myself I would stop calling him and wait and see what happened.

He called me once and so I started calling him again. His voice changed and that's how I could tell he was not happy with me anymore. I told him I was done with him and will not let anyone take me for a fool. A day later, he confessed everything and told me had another girlfriend. I felt really bad, but I was glad to hear the truth, so I told him we could be friends.

Pastor, I just think my best was not good enough. I never did anything to hurt him but I was glad that I didn't have sex with him or things would be worst. He is well known to this other girl's family and maybe that's the reason he thinks she will love him the way I did. He made a stupid mistake and he will see that in time. I still love him and it's hard to get over him. I find it difficult to concentrate on anything except him. How can I get over this fool? I await your advice.

D.B., St. Ann, Jamaica

Dear D.B.,

You will get over him in time. He dumped you and that is what hurts. You love him but he doesn't care much about you. So, wish him well. One way to get over a guy is to pray for him and to wish him well.

You call him a fool because you are hurt. Don't allow yourself to be bitter. The Lord may provide a better man for you.

Pastor