Dear Pastor,

I've been dating a man for six months but we have not been intimate. We talked about sex, we flirt, share our likes and dislikes, etc. but the problem is that I think he has a small penis. I have not seen it, but there are just some signs there that lead me to think that way.

I want to just come out and ask him about the size of his penis or ask him to allow me to see it, but I want to be tactful about it. Like for example, I can draw him into a conversation by saying, "Hey, I read that the average male penis size is 5.5 inches when erected. So are you above average"? Tell me pastor, do you think I will offend him by asking him this question?

A.C., Washington, U.S.A.

Dear A.C.,

There are certain questions a man should not ask a woman or a woman should not ask a man, unless they are engaged and planning to get married. This man and you are only dating and when people are dating they are free to date others until they have made the decision to go steady. This man and you have not come to that place; therefore, you should not ask him about the size of his penis.

What would you think of him if he should ask you about the size of your vagina? Oh, I know you would say that he is out of order. Guys sometimes ask women about their clitoris, etc. and women sometimes are eager to know why some men take so long to ask them for sex.

You seem to be hot and eager to have sex with this man. And the truth is you want to know whether he is large enough to satisfy you. I believe that is the real motive for wanting to ask him that question. When you look at the front of his pants, you don't see a big bulge, so you believe that he is small. You are too hot. Don't try to embarrass the man.

Pastor