Dear Pastor,

I'm from Jamaica but I live in Florida. My boyfriend is 10 years younger than I am. We've been together for almost eight years. We've been engaged for almost five years but we broke up for about a year and then we've been back together for about two years now.

other man

However, I am seeing someone else. I love my boyfriend but sometimes I feel as if the love from him is just not there anymore. We don't do anything but go to sleep together, no movies or anything. He loves his kids and gives them the world but I don't think I am happy being with him. I am confused. Help me please.

M. T., Orlando, Florida

Dear M. T.,

I wish you had said more about the children. I suggest you take off the engagement ring. This man has given you an engagement ring to keep you quiet but he is not committed to you. It is foolish to be wearing the engagement rind for so long. Your friends who know that you have been engaged for many years may be laughing at you. It is embarrassing.

If you have been seeing another man and you are so unhappy with the other guy, it is time for you to bring an end to the relationship. However, while you are living with him, you should bear in mind that it is unwise for you to be seeing another man.

Pastor