Dear Pastor,

I need your advice. I am dating a man for the past seven years and he still doesn't want me to live with him. Whenever the topic comes up he always says it is a bad time to talk. I love this man to death but it is killing me inside to see what this is doing to our relationship. He even accused me of dating one of his family members. I need this man in my life.

Please give me your advice.

I. M., Clarendon, Jamaica

Dear I.M.,

After seven years, it is time for this man to marry you. Why hang around with him? You don't have to go and live with him, it is time for him to marry you. You should insist that you talk about your future and if he doesn't want to talk, tell him that although it hurts, you will have to end the relationship with him. You can't force him to marry you, but you do not have to stay with him either. Lots of men don't want to marry women. They only want to get what the women have whenever it is convenient. Use your head woman.

Pastor