Dear Pastor,

My husband is a man who lives at church until he is meagre. He does not care whether his home is clean or not.

He only cares about the church and it must be spotless. He is aggressive to me.

The pastors commended him for neglecting his home and family to do the work in the church. This man spends no time at home.

Should I leave that church? He is used by the pastors and elders and they don't tell him to show interest in his home.

S.W, Clarendon, Jamaica

Dear S.W.,

I don't believe that any pastor will encourage a man to neglect his home. I am not saying that your husband is not neglecting his home and spending much of his time at the church, but I don't believe that you are speaking the truth by saying that the pastors commended him for his neglect.

Evidently, your husband and you need professional help. Both of you ought to seek the help of a family counsellor. It is evident that you have issues with the church. Therefore, I suggest that you make an appointment to meet with the pastors and elders while your husband is present and discuss the problems.

Pastor