Dear Pastor,

I have been with a man for the past three months. He has three kids. At first, even with his busy schedule, he found time to be with me. However, lately he has been very busy and complains about a lot of pressure at work. I now have to curse a lot to see him once or twice every other week.

Even when he comes to visit me, there isn't time to speak because he is very tired and wants to go to bed.

He is very quiet and normally never speaks unless spoken to. I really do care for him but I don't know what to do. The kids aren't living with him. He calls me at times but that's not good enough. I spoke to him several times and he said things would be better soon. But he doesn't talk to me about what is really causing this problem. What should I do?

S.C., St. Catherine

Dear S.C.,

Evidently this man has other interest. A relationship that is only three months old shouldn't go sour. But learn this, my friend, three months is not enough time to really know a man.

Any man who loves a woman is never too busy to see her. Even if it means that he would have to drag her along with him so that they can be together, he would.

What I am trying to tell you, is that you are not first in his life. You took him home much too early.

You gave him what he was hoping to get from you. You were not hard to get. So now, he is always finding excuses why he cannot come to see you, while you are trying to chase him. You are going to lose the battle.

I suggest that you drop him before he drops you. He is not the type of man you are looking for. He is causing you too much stress. Watch your heart darling.

Pastor