Dear Pastor,

Good day to you. You have been doing a good job. May God continue to bless you. I was molested when I was a child. It started with my father, then my cousins. I am now 27 years old and I have been in a relationship with a great guy for approximately nine years. I have cheated on him with about 10 different guys. On each occasion I have cried and asked him for his forgiveness. But it seemed to have reached a point now where there is no more forgiveness and I feel that it would be cruel to even try and ask him to stay with me after all the pain and hurt I have caused him.

Lately, he has asked me to leave his house on more than one occasion. We have a five year old daughter together. I went through a lot while I was growing up. My mother would constantly beat me and treat me badly. She had nine of us and life was really hard. I am now at a point in my life where I have realised that I cannot go on like this anymore. I am begging you for your help. I really need to change my life, for the sake of my daughter and especially for myself. My daughter's father has already given up on me and I do not blame him.

Please help me. I am depressed and desperate.

N. D., Kingston, Jamaica

Dear N.D.,

I regret hearing that you were molested by your father and cousins. Any man who would sexually molest his daughter deserves to be in prison. Your cousins should have been arrested, tried and sent to prison too. These men messed up your mind. They are wicked men. In fact, they are beasts in human form. No punishment for such a crime would be too great for them.

I am wondering whether you had therapy. Anyone who was sexually abused should undergo therapy. In your case you may find it very difficult to love men. What may be happening now to you is that you are searching and searching for comfort. You are looking for something that you never got from your father and even from the man with whom you are living.

You are a very unhappy girl. Every man is using you. May God deliver you. Yes, you need God's help. It is not God's desire for you to move from man to man and for all these men to be toying with your body. May God help me to remember you in prayer, and I ask all Christians today, to put you on their prayer lists. I also want you to read the Gospel of John everyday.

Your child's father is a good man. Both of you share a house and he knew about your unfaithfulness and he continued to forgive you. His cup is now full and he can't take it anymore. He wants you to go. I wish it were possible for me to talk to him. I would like to ask him to help you to receive professional help. Yes, you need to see a psychologist. This is not going to be a one-shot session. He/she will have to work with you for a period of time. So, please, make an appointment to see one today.

God bless you. Take care of yourself and learn to say no to the guys who are only interested in going to bed with you. Don't forget to attend church and to pray daily.

Pastor