Dear Pastor,

I am currently in Clarendon and I have a big problem. I have been involved with a guy for over three years. I really love him and I know he loves me. I am 19 and he is 22 years old. The problem is that he is very jealous. He doesn't want me to talk to any other guy. I had to stop talking to all my male classmates.

He does not like when I go out without him. He likes when we are together. He cares for me a lot and tries to assist me in finding a job. He would do anything for me. He wants me to spend the weekends with him, but that is a problem for my mother. He often sits with me and advises me of the correct procedures when dealing with customers.

He wants to get me pregnant, but I told him I am not ready for a child and will not be until I am 26. He said that when he starts to cheat on me, I will know why. If he sees me with another man, he thinks that the guy is up to something.

Please, pastor, tell me what to do. I do love this guy. He cares for me so much. I really need your help. I am going crazy. Please give me your fatherly advice.

É, Clarendon, Jamaica

Dear É,

I would like to let you know that this guy does not love you as much as you think. What he really wants to do is control you. Any man who does not want his girlfriend to talk to other men who are her classmates or social friends is a fool. Such a person is immature.

This guy has told you enough to make you end the relationship with him, but because you are young and naive, you consider what he said to you is because he loves you. No, young lady, what he is doing is not because of love. Why would a man want to impregnate his 19-year-old girlfriend? He wants to tie you down. He is a little boy.

A jealous man will commit murder. Leave him before something serious happens between the both of you. Good men don't dictate to their women, nor do they try to control them as if they are children.

Pastor