Dear Pastor,

I got married when I was young, but for all the wrong reasons. I loved my husband and still do. The problem is I have been back and forth between two people that I love very much. That is my husband and a good friend of mine. My friend is everything I could want in a guy and more. I love him, but I think I love my husband more. The problem is my husband is not able to help me financially and he is not always there for me when I need him. My husband and I are not together right now because I am with the other guy. But I am finding it very hard to be happy because I am very much confused about them both. They both love me very much and I love them too.

How do I know who to give up? What should I do? Pastor, I know I have not been perfect and I pray that God will forgive me for all the wrong that I have done. I do not want to hurt any of these men more than I already have. Please, help me to make a decision.

T.M., Florida, U.S.A.

Dear T. M.,

I don't know your circumstances. I don't know your financial obligations but I know for sure that if you truly love your husband, and you learn to trust the Lord, regardless of the difficulties that you may face, God will meet your needs. It is not a sin to have money, but it is wrong to love money to the extent that you would do wrong to obtain it. That is why the Bible says that "the love of money is the root of all evil."

By now, you have got my answer. Leave that 'good friend' and stick with your husband. You may have to take another job and work harder, but you will have peace of mind. Your husband needs all of you, you are his wife. Your good friend needs you for sex, while you have him for his money. Break this up now.

Pastor