Dear Pastor,

I am a little confused at the moment. I am with this man whom I have been with from June 2004. We separated in November of that same year because he was with another woman, so I found out and left. He moved in with her, but they too separated in June the next year.

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He came back for me and I took him back. We have been together since. Recently, he and some of his close friends had an argument. Now they are telling me to leave him because he left me once and that he has been cheating. They are telling me all sorts of things that he did in the past and giving me a whole bunch of reasons why I should leave him.

I asked him if he wants this relationship to work and he said yes he loves me. I am so confused because he keeps saying he loves me and his ex-friends keep giving me reasons to leave. Please tell me what to do.

T.B., Kingston, Jamaica

Dear T.B.,

Stop listening to his friends. If you love this man and you want to forgive him and stay with him that is up to you. His friends may be encouraging you to leave him because they want to have reasons to laugh at him. The decision to go or stay is yours, not theirs. They should stay out of your love life. Whenever they try to tell you negative things about him, tell them you don't care to hear. Prove everything for yourself.

Pastor