Dear Pastor,

I am a 23-year-old mother with one child. The man that I had my daughter with pursued me for a year before I finally gave in. We started a two year relationship and my daughter was conceived. When I was about six months pregnant, I found out through a mutual friend, that my child's father was cheating on me. He was not only cheating, but he also had another woman six and a half months pregnant. In fact, they were living together.

I talked to the other woman who was pregnant. We both confronted him. He told her to her face that he wanted to be with me and not her. So, I tried to forgive him and I thought we could make it work. I am not sure that we can, but he says that I should give him some time to help her find somewhere to live. He also said that I should just have some patience with him.

He betrayed me and what was supposed to be the happiest time of my life turned out to be the most devastating. I love him, but I can't trust him. I have a little girl and I have to be strong for her. I can't allow her to grow up and see the man who is supposed to adore her mother mistreating her. I love him to death, but I am just not sure we can make it work. He continues to live with this woman. I am too young to live my life like this.

M.R., USA

Dear M.R.,

You can never be sure what this man will do. He told her in your presence that he wants to be with you, but when he went home to her he could have told her something else. He fooled you before and you don't know if he is fooling you now. Liars don't change easily, so make sure that you don't put your whole heart on this man. If you are not careful, he will get you pregnant again. You are weak towards him. How much time does he need to have? You ought not to believe him.

Pastor