DEAR PASTOR,
I want to commend you on the good work that you are doing for people. I am 17 years old. I live in New York, but I was born in Kingston, Jamaica. Ever since I came here I have become sexually active. So far, I have slept with two boys. I was going out with one of the boys for a year, but the relationship didn't last. One of them really loves me a lot, but I don't trust him anymore. We broke up a few times and then we got back together, but the relationship was not working.
I decided that I was not going to talk to any other boys, but since the beginning of the year, I met another guy and he seems to be very cool. I am just going to take it slowly so that I don't fall in love with him and later have my heart broken. I know nothing lasts forever, but do you think I should give this other boy a chance?
T.
New York,
USA
Dear T.,
What I suggest is that you put intimate relationships out of your mind for a while and concentrate on getting a good education. The guys are going to be around all the time.
Some of them are very good in fooling women and you are no match for them. It takes a while to mature, so I am begging you to take your time and grow up. It would be far better if you were to go out in groups instead of dating guys or going steady with any of them.
You don't have to have an intimate boyfriend right now. Even this guy who you believe is 'cool' can be your social friend. If after a long time both of you believe that you should date each other, you may do so, but only after you have got to know him very well.
Pastor
Remember that many men are liars and they take great joy in fooling women.
Pastor
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