Dear Pastor,
I started listening to your show some time this year and I tell you, I find it very interesting. It has really boosted my temporal and spiritual life. I am not married, nor do I have a man friend or a child. I got pregnant when I was in my 20s but my sisters carried me to the doctor and it was aborted. I never planned for it really, but I never got pregnant again. There is this emptiness in my heart and life. I feel lonely and left out at times.
I cared for my parents and was always the one at home taking care of and monitoring everything. I used to feel happy as much as I could despite the heavy task of looking about the home and going to work as I was successful in getting a teaching job and did an insurance course. It was not easy for me but I went on with the help of the Lord.
Since one of my sisters came to live at home, it's like a thorn in my flesh. She is just rough and 'tuff' in everything she does or says. There is no love in her voice. I am so unhappy most of the time and I don't do anything to her. If I should answer her when she says some hurtful things, there would be war in the house. I try my best not to say a word as it takes two to quarrel. It is a good thing to know the Lord. I asked Him to help me not to answer or say anything harsh. At one stage, because of the way she behaved, my blood-sugar level went up. The doctor said it was the highest he had ever seen my blood-sugar. I really went through it with her.
She is a woman who is full of pride. She has four daughters and one of them is her little idol. Everything she talks about, that child is uppermost in her conversation. The other sister gets along with her. One of them said to me one day that she is getting older and she is not backing down. I just pray that the Lord will break her down and humble her because she can't go to heaven with these attitudes. I can't even have friends because of her. She just watches to see who calls at the gate. No matter where she is she appears and if my phone rings, it's the same thing.
I am now sixty-five years old and I just feel like I am in prison. I am just tense up when she is around. When I have to go out for a day, I feel good. Her tone of voice affects me. I don't go around telling everybody, but when I talk to good people like you, I feel better. Kindly pray that the Lord will help me. Please pray for her too.
I have never seen you and would really like to know you. You are a lovely person. When I hear you laugh it lifts my spirit. Your laugh is very infectious, I have to laugh too. You are just a practical, down to earth person. God will bless you for the good work you are doing and the inspiration you have given to so many people, including me. You are my big brother, you are my friend.
Troubled Sister
Dear Troubled Sister,
I wish you did not have to live in the same house with your sister. I understand what you are trying to say. Some siblings don't get along very well. They shouldn't live under the same roof.
You will have to pray that God will give you grace to live in peace with your sister. Perhaps you should also pray that she may experience the new birth. Born again people learn to live in peace with others because they have experienced the Prince of Peace, the Lord Jesus, in their lives.
Pastor
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