DEAR PASTOR,
I have a question that I would like to ask you. My fiancé has a brain tumour and sometimes his head hurts so much that he gets angry. He has the money to do the operation, but he has not because he said that he's not going to pay any surgeon to kill him. All he thinks about is that maybe he doesn't make it out of surgery.
The question that I want to ask is why when his head hurts so badly mine hurts too and even when my head hurts he said that his hurts too? I really don't know why that happens so can you help me understand it all? Is it because we love each other so much or maybe our heads just choose to hurt at the same time?
M.E, St. Ann, Jamaica
Dear M.E.
Although you are not suffering from a brain tumour, you are sharing in your boyfriend's physical pain because both of you are in love. You are suffering emotional, psychologically and even physically. That is quite natural and he is not making life easy for you. He is talking about paying a doctor to kill him. He seems depressed and he needs counselling.
May I suggest that you try to help this young man by accompanying him to the doctor and explaining to the doctor what he has expressed to you. If he does not want you to accompany him to the doctor, you should take the initiative and call the doctor and tell him how your boyfriend feels about surgery. Beg the doctor to meet with him for consultation.
Pastor
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