Dear Pastor,
I am a 35-year-old woman living in the United Kingdom since 2000. My partner from Jamaica joined me in May 2001. We now have a child together. My partner has joined the British Army through my affiliates with the Armed Forces Carriers Office. He has been promoted to Lance Corporal and is living in Germany. I am living in the United Kingdom with my son who is three years old.
My reason for writing to you is: his brother died in Jamaica in April 2005 and he went to Jamaica for five weeks. During those six weeks, he went to America. His mom told me he went to visit one of his sisters who wasn't able to attend the funeral. His cousin called to find out if I was still with him. I told her yes we are still together. She said I should put him out of my house. I asked her why and she said I should call his aunt in Jamaica. When I did, she told me that he went to America and got married to the girl he was with before me. When I asked him about it, he said he did her a favour. He is now telling me nothing has to change and I won't loose him if I don't want to.
What should I do? I know he is married, but honestly, what should I do?
Deceived, United Kingdom
Dear Deceived,
If you are married to this man and he got married again without divorcing you, he has committed bigamy. You shouldn't be living with a bigamist. If on the other hand, both of you were just living together and were not legally married, I am afraid the only thing you can do is to throw him out and to seek advice from an attorney-at-law to find out whether you are entitled to anything from him. If he has committed bigamy, you should report him to the police.
This man is very wicked. I congratulate his relatives for telling you the truth. You should never trust him again. He has his plans and one of them is to leave you eventually. Don't allow him to fool you.
Pastor
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