Dear Pastor,
I must commend you for the great work you are doing. I am seeking your help if it's possible. I was in a relationship for 20 years. I was married to a wonderful Jamaican man for 14 years. He works on a cruise ship. Our marriage was great, but not perfect. He cheated with several women, both Jamaicans and non-Jamaicans. A child was born outside of our marriage which he denies until today. I forgave him because I loved him and he was the first person for me.
He had a kind heart. Back then, he never ill-treated me. He was the kind of man a woman would have wanted. We have two sons who are 21 and 13 years old. Five years ago, he left for overseas with the intention of returning home. Until today, he has not returned home. In April 2002 he started to act rather strangely. He was not the person I knew when I was 17 years old. He finally sent me divorce papers stating he doesn't love me anymore and things weren't going to work out.
I signed the papers with a broken heart and spirit. He left me for someone else. I was devastated. I hit rock bottom and tried to kill myself twice, but God's mercy kept me. I am very grateful, especially for my family's support. I was so miserable and lonely. It is now four years since I ahave been in a relationship. I have met several men, but they have a lot of baggage. They are married. I honestly can't settle for less. At one point, I thought life was over, I thought I nothing. But, I am not the only woman who got walked over by the man she thought loved her.
I must say my ex-husband takes care of the kids and he's a great father.
M.M.,
Portland, Jamaica
Dear M.M.,
Although you are divorced, you can still enjoy life. Your former husband moved on with his life and you have to do the same with yours. I am happy that he supports his children. Occupy your time in church and social work or go back to school. God may grant you a good husband in His own time.
Pastor
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