Dear Pastor,
I have to start out by saying that you have done great work in the past and you should continue the good work. I am seeking advice on this problem that I have.
Six months ago, my older cousin introduced me to a guy. He is 20 and he likes me. I didn't like him at first, but we sat down that night and had a good conversation. He told me that he has a girlfriend but his friends teased him about her because she is ill shaped. I didn't seem to care. He started to kiss me and we ended up having sex. He took my number, but I never answered his calls, neither did I return them. Not because I was embarrassed about having sex with him the first time we met, but because I did not fancy him to begin with.
My cousin had a relationship going with one of his friends and they said he kept on inquiring about me. He was bothering my cousin, so I went to see him again.
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We started having a sexual relationship. I did not put myself out there to love him so I rarely spent time with him or called him which got him mad at times and we would argue. His friends always tease us and say we are getting in too deeply, because of the way we act towards each other and because of the fact that he has a girlfriend, or a 'bups' who gives him money and cleans his house. According to his friends, they never talk to her. She has an idea about me because she has seen me before. But he curses her out anytime she tries to ask about me and many times when I have gone to visit him he sends her home. I honestly began to like him after getting acquainted with some of his friends. They have so much vibes. But what is really bothering me is that we had an argument two weeks ago and I called him to tell him I may be pregnant and he has not replied. Then his friends are saying it must be a jacket. He never said that. Now I am awaiting test results and I will never call him back. We are both stubborn, so he would have to approach me if anything.
P. S.,
Ontario, Canada
Dear P. S.,
Too bad you were so easy to get. The first night you met this guy, you had sex with him. He is not going to think very highly of you at all. You were very careless in having unprotected sex with him. I am not surprised that he is treating you with such disdain. That's how he treats women. Have you forgotten that whenever you visited him and his girlfriend was there, he would just send her away? He doesn't respect women. If you are pregnant, have your baby and if he does not support the child, take him to court for child support.
Pastor
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