DEAR PASTOR,
I am involved with a man for the past five years. When I first met him, I had just returned to Jamaica. He had a business at the time. Shortly after we met, he started coming by my apartment and he would fall asleep. This is even before we had sex. He was super attentive to me and I fell for his charms. Without us discussing it, he moved into my apartment. I didn't mind either because I was really into him. I got pregnant for him. I experienced difficulty during my pregnancy and was put on bed rest. He got robbed of his car and some money one night when he was out (I suspected with a girl).
MOVED OUT
During the pregnancy he moved out of the house telling me that he was depressed and needed space. He not only moved out but he gave no financial support. I had to quit the job I had since I was ordered to bed rest. Also, I was going to the doctor every day it seems, so my resources were draining. I hardly saw him during the pregnancy. When I gave birth, I almost died. He never came to the hospital to see me. When I was discharged, the baby was still in intensive care and he didn't go to see her. He claimed he does not like hospitals. I got over that. My baby did okay.
He started coming to my house again. Usually, I would just leave him with the baby. When my child was five months, he came and begged my forgiveness and I forgave him. He started another business. I lived with my child and he lived by himself. I had also moved from my old apartment as it was too expensive.
MOVED BACK IN
After a couple a months, we were involved again. He then moved into my house again, the same way he did before. For a while it was okay. He stayed out a whole night and didn't even call. He ran up my phone bill to $10,000.00. But the worst thing is I had my 17-year-old sister at the time, staying at the house. One night I woke up and he was not in the bed. I heard a sound and went to check it out. To my surprise he was having sex with my sister. In the morning I asked her to leave.
I called a friend and asked him if I could use his guestroom and he said yes.My friend made sexual approaches to me that I didn't like. One morning I had to slap him. I had to leave that same day. I ended up living back with my child's father.
It started burning whenever I went to pee. When I went to my doctor, he told me that I had gonorrhoea. He was at the doctor too. I have never been so ashamed in my life. He sat there telling me 'sorry'. I had to do a complete medical again. During the time I was with him, I loaned him $JA200,000. When I was leaving I asked for it and I haven't seen a cent of it yet. I moved out and was on my own again. He followed me and moved in again. This didn't last long.
He went overseas and lost all his money and came right back to my home. We spoke about business and decided to try in a different country. I helped him financially to get there. He got there and did a business marriage. He didn't tell me until I was about ready to join him there.
I spoke to him and he told me that he will have intercourse with whomever he wants and whenever he wants. He told me I should come out of his place. I went crazy. Think of all my money, all the years and all that I have endured.
I took three dozen sleeping pills. I realised what I did and went at him with a chopper. I wanted him dead. I didn't even remember my daughter. She saw it all. I woke up four days after in the hospital. Since then he has not given me a moment of peace. He is constantly at me. My daughter is messed up.
Dear C. M.,
Go see an attorney and discuss the legal ramification of the business. Try your best to get out of doing business with this man. If you don't, you will sink with him. Evidently, he is not a good business partner and he doesn't have any respect for you at all.
Pastor
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