Dear Pastor,
I AM A 16-year-old female and times are very hard for me. I have been sexually active from 15 years old and I am not proud of myself. At 15, I started being sexually active with this guy that I am still active with. My sister is determined to get this man out of my life because it's affecting my school work and also my behaviour towards my family.
I have found myself spending money on this guy while he gives me zero. My birthday was a couple of weeks ago and he came the next day to my house to collect money and he didn't even say happy belated birthday to me. I love him too much and I love the Lord but I also realise that lust is a strong sin and the more a person gets involved in that sin, it is the harder to let go.
I want to go to university and make my parents proud. I also want to prove to other people that I am not the worthless person they think I am. It has been about 10 months since we broke up and ever since that time, I have wanted to get back with him. He knows how I feel, and the thing is, he wants me to have have sex only with him and no other guy. He has another girl and while he is with me. I guess he wants to control my every move. I am so confused about what I should do and the thing is I know what to do. People try to help me, but I cannot say no to giving him everything he wants or to being with him.
I am writing this letter so that I can get advice from a pastor's point of view and also for you to pray for me while I pray for myself. These are the last days and it is people like you that make a difference in people like me and others.
K., Florida, U.S.A.
Dear K.,
This young man is worthless. He started to have sex with you when you were 15 and he continues to do so. He looks at you as his feeding tree. You are helping to support him financially. He is not a good man. You are an intelligent girl. You are just weak towards this man and he is taking advantage of that. If you are not careful, something terrible will have to happen before you end the relationship with him.
Your sister has tried to talk to you to show you that you should not continue with this man, but you have not stopped. God will have to help you. You need spiritual deliverance and that comes directly from God. You really have to pray and ask God to strengthen you, because you are weak. Then you will have to do some practical things also, such as, not calling this guy, not going out with him, not returning his telephone calls, not going to visit his house and not entertaining him if he visits your house. Then tell your sister and others of your decision and ask them to give you moral support.
Pastor
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