Dear Pastor
Firstly, let me thank you for the great advice you've been giving. A lot of the advice you give to other people I have also taken into consideration with my everyday life. I am living in the United States of America with my girlfriend and recently my mother came up to visit and has been staying with us. Ever since she got here, my girlfriend and I have been having a lot of problems. The other day she came to me and told me that my mother has been going through her jewellery box which really upset me.
I called my mother and asked her if she ever touched her jewellery box, and of course she got upset. Later in the day, my mother called me crying and asking why she would even think of doing that. I felt so bad hearing her cry that I am ready to get rid of my girlfriend. The thing is I love this girl. She has always been there for me from the first day I met her and I am not one to burn my bridges. But for her to disrespect my mother like that, I can't even stand to look at her. My mother tells me not to end the relationship but deep inside she was out of place for saying something like that.
Please Pastor, help me to make the right decision as I am always the one who thinks after my actions.
B. S., New Jersey, U.S.A.
Dear B. S.,
Your girlfriend complained that your mother went into her jewellery box. Your mother denied the accusation. You don't know for sure what happened but you seem to believe your mother. Whether or not she went into the jewellery box is not enough grounds to end the relationship with the woman you have loved for a while. Perhaps she made a mistake. You should leave it like that. Don't forget that your mother has told you that you should not walk away from your girlfriend.
Sometimes when mothers are visiting sons and daughters-in-law problems arise because some mothers still believe that they are to get involved in everything and their daughters-in-law resent that. How long will your mother be around? It would be good if you would reassure your girlfriend that things will get back to normal as soon as your mother leaves.
Pastor
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