Dear Pastor,
I am a very frequent reader who has never thought that I would ever need your help but here I am writing to you. Recently, I visited Jamaica and fell in love with a guy who is a bit older than I am but that is not a problem. The problem is that I don't think I can deal with this long-distance relationship any longer. I think he is seeing someone else and lying to me about it.
He used to live with his mother and then he moved out, not to go on his own but to live with someone else. And whenever I am talking to him about certain things, he can't respond. He keeps telling me he will answer me tomorrow. He told me the room that he stays in belongs to a friend who is in America and the friend's sister is in the other room which I don't believe.
I told him that my feelings for him are not the same as they used to be because I don't think he is being honest with me. I spoke to his mother and sister about the situation but they keep telling me that he loves me and that he is not doing anything but I still have my doubts.
Pastor, I need your help because he keeps talking about getting married and I am not ready for that. I keep telling him that I don't know. I need help, please.
R. B., Ontario, Canada
Dear R. B.,
You have your doubts about this man and rightly so. He is not telling you the truth. He is behaving as if he thinks you are a fool. He probably wants to be in a position to live in Canada and you are his ideal opportunity of doing so. Don't allow him to use you. You have picked up early that he is a user.
Pastor
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