DEAR PASTOR,
I am a 19-year-old female living in the United States of America. I wrote to you about my boyfriend whom I have been seeing for seven years. He lives in Jamaica while I am here attending college in the U. S.
Something new has happened and I don't know what to do. As I am writing to you now, it has been approximately one month since I've heard from him. Everytime I call his phone, my call is forwarded to his voicemail or sometimes it rings and then goes to voicemail.
I never had a reason not to trust him in our long-distance relationship, but now this is getting out of hand. I don't know if anything has happened to him or if he just simply has another girlfriend and can't be bothered with me.
My friends tell me to leave him and move on with my life but how can I throw away seven years of love? This was the guy I was planning on getting married to next summer after I graduate college but now I really don't know what to think. So here I am asking you for your advice.
Please help me. Do you think I should move on? Or give him time to come around? I await your advice.
T. A., Miami, U.S.A.
Dear T. A.,
You have no proof that your boyfriend has another intimate girlfriend. The reasons you have given are not strong enough to end the relationship. Have you considered that perhaps somebody might have stolen his phone therefore he is unable to receive your calls? True, he should make an effort to contact you but some men are a little careless and they take their girlfriends for granted.
I suggest therefore that you write him a letter and let him know that you have trying to call him and that you are a little bit frustrated with the way things are going between the both of you. Is there a possibility that you can email him? Email is a cheap way to communicate.
Pastor
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