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No role played by godparents

DEAR PASTOR,

Is it possible and/or permissible to change godparents? When my son was born, a set of seemingly interested godparents were chosen for him. The two couples and one individual are listed on his baptismal certificate. However, they haven't even shown the slightest bit of interest since his baptism.

If they see us at church, they might say 'hello' but it stops there. Not a phone call, birthday card, nothing at all. I know what a godparent is and there are so many other people who love my son as their own. My husband and I are seriously considering relieving the current godparents of their responsibility and replacing them with more suitable ones.

Some have said that this may be offensive. However, I don't think it's funny when his supposed godmother asks, "What's his name again?"

Thanks for your help.

Y. H., Canada

Dear Y. H.,

Remember you chose these people as godparents. Evidently you did not know them well. I don't think you need to be upset because they are not showing enough interest in your son. Some godparents often play the role of parents, others do not.

Thank God that your husband and you are well able to take care of your son. Don't try to change the godparents. As your boy grows up, don't be surprised if the attitude of his godparents change.

Pastor

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