DEAR PASTOR,
I'm a frequent reader of your column and you give some very good advice so I thought that you could help me out. I'm turning 15 in two months and I have had a boyfriend for the past three years. My parents know that I like him, but they don't approve of us being together. The problem is that when we started hanging out together he lied to me about his age. He was 18 at the time and he told me that he was 17 so I thought that we could be together.
He respects me a lot and I can see that he cares about my future. He tells me all the good stuff that my parents would say about school and I really love him. I left Jamaica about 17 months ago and we are still together. A couple months ago I was talking to one of my cousins and she was telling me that he is too old for me and I should let him go, but I find it too hard to do because I really do love and care about him.
I want you to tell me if you think our relationship is alright. He told me that he was sorry to lie about his age and I forgave him, but pastor, I love him so badly. I can't let him go.
Please help me. Thanks a lot. I need to know if this relationship will survive.
C. H., Florida, USA
Dear C. H.,
Well, I don't encourage 15 year old young girls to be in relationships. I believe that at that age, it is perfectly normal to have social boyfriends and to go out in groups. Girls can learn to socialise with boys without becoming intimate in their mid teens.
I can't encourage you to continue with this young man because you are young and he will take advantage of you. He is not truthful and therefore you should not trust him. If a young man will lie about his age, he will lie about other things.
Pastor
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