Dear Pastor,
I am 23 years old and I am seeing a 32-year-old man who won't stop seeing his ex-girlfriend. He says that I am not his girlfriend, but whenever I want to see someone else, it's a problem. We have arguments constantly about her calling. Whenever I answer his phone, he gets an attitude. He even answers the phone when I am there and she is calling. He then tells me that it's nothing.
I have found panties many times that are not mine! Sometimes she answers the phone when I call him, so I stopped speaking to him. He called me the next day and said it's not like that and that she was just there to get her mail. It was 11:00pm. He says he loves me and could see himself marrying me.
Should I stick by him or move on with my life?
S.W., Philadelphia, U.S.A.
Dear S. W.,
This man is still having an intimate relationship with the girl he calls his ex. She is not his ex girlfriend at all. She is one of his girlfriends and you are one of his girlfriends. You are not his special woman. He probably doesn't have any special girlfriend. He knows that you love him and the other girl loves him too. He spends time with you, and he spends time with her. And when you get upset about his behaviour with her, to him, you shouldn't because it is no big deal.
Now listen to me. You have to bring an end to this relationship and you have to do it early. If you don't, he will continue to use you. Don't even talk about marrying this man because you will never be happy. He is wild and is not ready to settle down. So, walk away from that mess.
Pastor
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