Dear Pastor,
I met the man of my dreams five years ago while on vacation in the island. This man was perfect in every way possible. I knew he was too good to be true and I was always looking for his flaws. It took me five years to find them.
About a month ago, I came home from work early only to find him in bed with another man and my dog. Pastor, I was so disgusted, I ran out of the house. I moved out all my things when he wasn't home and went to live with my mother.
The problem is that I never told anyone why I left my husband and they keep asking me why I left him. We haven't spoken to each other from it happened. I can't look at him. He constantly calls me and leaves messages asking me not to tell anyone about the other man and the dog. The truth is, I still love him and it's killing me and I need to talk about it.
I know I don't want to get back together with him, but should I keep covering up for him or let all his friends and family know what kind of man he really is? My anger wants to, but my love for him wants to protect him. Please advise me on what to do.
N. D., New York, U.S.A.
Dear N. D.,
In the first place, you need counselling. What you saw is still affecting you. Therefore, you need to speak to a psychologist. You are alleging that your husband is bisexual, but if a dog was in the bed too, what does that make him? Some of these cases would make any healthy person vomit when they read them. The Bible is correct: The natural man is deprived from the crown of his head to the sole of his feet and he needs Jesus in his life.
You are quite correct in leaving this man. Whether you ought to tell his relatives about what you saw, is up to you. Some would never believe and would say that you are falsely accusing him. Perhaps when people ask you why you have left your husband, you should tell them that they should direct that question to him because he asked you not to tell anybody.
I further suggest that whenever your husband calls you, encourage him to go for professional help. His behaviour is not normal.
Pastor
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