Dear Pastor,
I am a 30-year-old man living in London. I am having a big problem but I think the problem is because of me. I am married to one of the best persons in the world who treats me like a king but I don't treat her like a queen. Anything I ask for, I get and the little she asks of me, I don't do.
I cheated on her so many times and she has always forgiven me. I have a son with another woman before I met my wife and she loves my son a lot. She also has problems with my baby mother who is still living in Jamaica with my son. I send her $22,000 every month for my son and within two weeks she will call and say she has no money and my wife is getting upset with all of this.
I know that I am not a good husband but I know I am a good father.
Please tell me what to do. I love my wife and she is about to walk out of my life.
A. G.,
London
Dear A. G.,
You recognised that you have a good wife and that you are not treating her very well. I want you to take the initiative and set up an appointment with a family counsellor. Tell the counsellor the truth. Ask your wife to accompany you for sessions. Lay your soul before the counsellor and your wife. Let her see that you sincerely love her and that you regret the pain you have caused her. What I am trying to tell you my friend, is try to do everything possible to save your marriage.
Concerning your child's mother in Jamaica, if you know that you are doing your very best in supporting your child, ignore the calls his mother makes to you. Perhaps you need to have your wife send the money to her so that at least she will get involved in the child's life. She would know exactly how much money goes to the child per month and whether it needs to be increased.
Pastor
Do
you have a problem? Is something bothering
you? Write to