Dear Pastor,
I am a 24-year-old female living in the United Kingdom. Since residing in this country I have been having an on and off relationship with my current boyfriend. We are both independent people. He works full time and he owns his own business. I am currently waiting to start university in September of this year but I will have to move away from home, and away from him.
The problem is, now that I've finished college and I'm working part-time, it appears that he has time for everybody and everything else except me. It bothers me and when I try to talk to him about it, he keeps telling me that he is working hard to build a future for us. I don't think he would cheat on me, but I won't be too quick to say that he is a saint because none of us is. We have been together for about six years on and off.
During the time that we were not together he got together with this other girl and before long he proposed to her and they were living together. I feel jealous of that because I have never had that with him. He tells me that he loves me whenever we talk on the phone or when we are together but I feel angry at him for what he did. I'm hoping that when I start university, I will be able to put it behind me and be happy. I really love this guy and I believe he loves me too.
What should I do to let this feeling of jealousy go?
S.,
United Kingdom
Dear S.,
The feelings can go away if you forgive the man for what he did in the past. You say that you don't believe that he would cheat and you believe that he loves you. So I am assuming that what happened in the past was when both of you were not together. Don't allow the past to hang over you, but tell your boyfriend that both of you must make time for each other.
Pastor
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