Dear Pastor,
I have been having an affair with my cousin for the last 15 years. He is married with grown kids, except the youngest one who is almost 9. We love each other very much and really wish we could be a couple. However, we accept that this can never be so.
His wife does not show him any love and they almost never have sex although they still share the same bed. He says he feels very little for her except the fact that she is the mother of his children. We know this relationship cannot go anywhere but we still feel very strongly about each other and see one another whenever we can. We are living quite a distance apart but that never seems to deter our meetings.
What can we do? I've prayed, he's prayed but the feelings don't go. After all, we are only humans, right?
T. R.,
New York, USA
Dear T. R.,
I am afraid I cannot support this kind of relationship. And it is nonsense to make excuses for having a sexual relationship with your cousin although he is married and living with his wife. Why do you think that what he is saying to you about not having sex with his wife is true? People do what they want to do and you and your cousin are having sex because you want to have sex. Both of you should learn to stay away from each other.
Pastor
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