DEAR PASTOR,
Please keep up the good work that you are doing. I have been living in America for the past 5 years. I left Jamaica and decided to live in America. I was scared of going back to Jamaica. My ex-boyfriend, who is my son's father tried to kill me because of a girl that came in our lives. I am a single mother. My son's father has not taken care of him. I gave up on asking him for help because his woman tells him not to communicate with us.
I got involved with another guy from Jamaica. He is very respectful and is loved by his peers. The problem is that he is married and in the process of getting a divorce, at least that is what he says. His wife started calling me and threatening me about what she will do to me and him. I ignored her. He told me over and over how much he loves me and that he would die for me. He now hides things from me and I don't feel contented in the relationship, so I decided to give the relationship a break.
I know it is wrong to lie to him but I did. I lied to him because I knew he would not give in to what I asked. I told him that I was cheating on him with someone he didn't like. Pastor, I hurt him badly when I lied, but I also hurt myself. He loves me and I love him, but I couldn't stand to see him going through hard times with his wife and family because of me. I thought about how his wife was feeling because I have felt that way before. I even told him to try and work it out with her and he said no, that they had decided a long time ago to end the relationship and now is the time.
VERY INTELLIGENT
I felt guilty about the situation so I decided to just give the relationship a break until he was ok with everything. Now he doesn't want to have anything to do with me. He said that he doesn't want me back in his life and that I am a liar, a witch and he calls me the worst names you can think of.
I love this man very much. I even let him know that I am still in love with him after a year from the day we broke up. I am in collage studying fashion designing, trying to make the best of my life. I am very intelligent and ambitious, but I need advice. Even the most intelligent people need advice at times.
Should I wait on him or move on with my life?
C.B., New York, USA
Dear C. B.,
You don't have anything to wait on. This man does not believe you anymore and he is not prepared to trust you. So whether he is planning to divorce his wife or not, he does not consider you a part of him anymore. Try to concentrate on what you are doing and trust God for a husband, if it is His will for you to have one.
Pastor
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