Dear Pastor,
I have been with my boyfriend for the past year and four months. I am having a lot of problems in my life at the moment because sometimes he ignores me and all he wants is sex.
He is there for me sometimes and at other times he is a different person. I think he has multiple personalities. He was born in November and I know that November men are hard to understand. Talking to him is like talking to the wall.
I need my relationship to be the way it was, but I do not know what to do. I need your help.
V.B. Grand Cayman
Dear V. B.,
Evidently, this man and you do not communicate well.
Communication is the key to a happy relationship. It has nothing to do with the month that he is born. I am sure that men who were born in November will not agree with what you have said. A good relationship is not based on sex. When a relationship is based on sex and people get tired of each other, they split. People often equate sex and love but both are not the same. Evidently, your boyfriend just wants a sex partner.
When people respect each other, they listen to each other. They may not always agree but they value each other's opinion. If a spouse says to the other, "you are talking foolishness, I don't want to hear you, you are stupid," that spouse is being disrespectful.
And, it is a good indication that the relationship is at the place where a family counsellor should be invited in to see whether or not he or she can save the relationship, or the couple should go their separate ways.
I think I have said enough to help you make a decision.
Pastor
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