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Cheetah

DEAR PASTOR,

I am 21 years old and I have been with my 26 year old partner for 6 years now. We are both from Jamaica, but we live in England now. He was in England for a year before he sent for me.

Our relationship was perfect, but since I have come here everything has changed. He was talking to this girl before I get here, but then he told me it was over between them. I later became pregnant and during the seventh month, he went and got married behind my back to the same girl that he told me he had finished with. He said he did not get married because he wanted a relationship. He said he did it in order to sort himself out because he did not have status here. He used to go to college and he stopped . I then took him back.

After I had my daughter, I started going to college to study nursing. My partner moved in with his wife and told me that he wanted it to look official. I still stick around because of my daughter. I don't have any family in England and I have no one to talk to.

He can't stop cheating on me. Even the day before my birthday, he had sex with a woman on my bed in my house. However, I still went back and had sex with him. I love him so much. I have told myself that I am going to leave him so many times, and yet I still go back when he says that he loves me and does not want me to leave him. Please help me. I want to get out of this relationship so badly, but I don't have the strength to do it. My mind is telling me to go, but my heart wants to stay. Thank you for helping.

D.K., England

Dear D.K.,

This man is lying all the way. He wants to have the best of both worlds. He is not prepared to leave you or his wife. If he were honest, he would have told what he was doing.

He is a cruel guy. He is not concerned about how you feel. Right now it is difficult for you to tell him to go because you are allowing your heart to rule your head. You love him so much that you are not thinking straight. Your emotions are getting the better of you.

Pastor

Until you have come to realise that this man is a heartless two-footed beast, you are going to continue to allow him to use you and to confuse your mind. You need to sit with a family counsellor and ask for guidance on how to deal with your situation. I don't suggest it is going to be easy, but as I see it, there is no future with this man. He is making a fool of you. You should not trust him.

Pastor