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Wife and 'matie' sharing his love

Dear Pastor,

I am in love with a guy, but I don't know what to do. We have two kids together; a son who is two and I just had a daughter in December. The only problem is that he is married.

His wife had a baby in January (a little girl). We were together before he got married. His wife found out about our son after they got married.

However, she does not know that we have a daughter together. I know that he is in love with both of us and he does not want to choose.

I do not know want to do. I need some advice.

J.S., Miami, Fl

Dear J.S.,

This man has already chosen one of you to be his wife. During the time he was going with you, he got married to the other woman.

You continue to be intimate with him and he impregnated you again. So now you have two children by him. So long as you wish to have him in your life, he will do his thing. He is irresponsible and so are you.

I believe that you are hoping that he would leave his wife because you were before her. I believe you are wasting your time. You should consider what you have done as a mistake. I know you love this man, but what about your future?

This man definitely doesn't care about his family life and you should remember that even if he leaves the matrimonial home and come to you permanently, he will always be looking to capture the heart of other women. Make this second child your last mistake.

Pastor