Tell Me Pastor

He now loves another woman

Dear Pastor,

I am only 18 and stressed-out over a boy. I am in love with him. He asked me to be his girlfriend again but I said no. He has asked me about 20 times and I have said no.

One night I called him to tell him I want to be with him, but he told me that he now has a girlfriend who is much older than I am. He said he wants an older woman who can support him and not act childish.

I don't know what to do. I have known this guy for six years and we were in a relationship for four years. He said he still loves me but now I am confused about everything. I don't even feel like living any more. He said he doesn't want to speak to me again.

How could he hurt me so badly after all we have been through together? He is 20. He said I am not mature, but I am. I am confused. Now I hate guys. I never want another guy in my life again.

K.K., Jamaica

Dear K.K,

This guy is interested in another girl, so the best way to deal with the situation is to accept what he has said and leave him alone. Don't call him anymore, because he would interpret that as harassment. You will get over him in time.

Everybody from time to time experiences disappointments and rejections. However, not all disappointments are bad and perhaps in the future you will be glad that this guy and you broke up.

He claims that you are immature. Whether or not that is true, is no big thing. You are young and probably acting as an adolescent. Some people mature faster than others. Don't let what he says about you get you down. He is insensitive and was expecting too much from you.

Try to get a good education, focus on that. A good education will never let you down, but a man may.

Pastor