Tell Me Pastor

Love preys

DEAR PASTOR,

I am 25 years old and I am a Christian. I am also in prison at the moment. Before I came to prison, I was involved with this girl. She was the one who brought me to Christ. We met each other in a taxi and later, we became intimate friends. I did everything that she asked me to do. She was a Christian when I met her. She asked me to go to church with her where I later got baptised. She later backslid and we broke up.

I am now involved with her best friend. She is also a Christian in that same church. Because we are deeply involved, we don't even know where we are in Christ. Whenever I am praying and she comes to mind, I lose focus. Whenever I don't see her or hear from her, I can do nothing at all. I try to put her aside in order to focus on the faith, but it is just not working. I want to be a minister of religion.

I told her that our faith with God is not right, but she said she couldn't help it. She became a Christian before I did, and now, sometimes when I ask her to go to church, we fight. I love her so much. Sometimes when I look at her picture, I feel so down. I want to get married to her. She is now 22 years old.

We are two very young Christians.

Do you think the fact that I love her and do not want to lose her is right? I have prayed about her. I am so confused yet so in love. Please tell me what to do because I want to live for God. God bless you.

D.R., Kingston

Dear D.R.,

You have something to look forward to and that is to be with the girl you love. However, the love you have for her is getting in the way of your prayer life. So, you have become obsessed with her although you are incarcerated. Could it be also that you are worried that she will find another man? Am I also to believe that this girl was your former girlfriend's best friend and you do not know how this will play out when you are out of prison?

Pastor

Every young Christian go though struggles, so you are not alone in this struggle. I suggest therefore that you read everyday, a portion of the Book of Proverbs and as you read, pray and ask God to guide your steps as a young man. Don't worry about the girl. God will take care of everything according to His will.

Pastor