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DEAR PASTOR,

I am a 23-years old woman who is involved with a married man. He told me he was on the verge of divorcing his wife. Pastor, do you think the relationship will last if he divorces her for me?

My family is against it. Should I listen to them? His family loves me very much and says that I must stay with him because he is better off with me. Should I listen to them? I am very confused and worried about my future with him.

His wife is currently pregnant. He said it was an accident because he thought she was using contraceptives, even though he used the condom. He said it burst. His family believed that his wife purposely got pregnant. They said I should not let it get the better of me. They said I should try and overcome this, even though it is hard.

Pastor, now you know why I am so confused. Please pray for me because sometimes I don't even know what to think. I don't even know what to do. Please give me your advice.

M., Clarendon

Dear M.,

I can't encourage you in this relationship. Your relatives are quite correct in discouraging you for being intimate with this man. I believe that this man is lying to you and you are going to get yourself into trouble if you continue to have an intimate relationship with this man. If you don't want trouble to follow you, get out of this mess.

I doubt very much that the condom broke, but let us assume that it did, if his wife and himself were not being intimate, how is it they had sex? And why would she be on contraceptives? Can't you see that this man is lying? I hope you would have the strength and the wisdom to leave him alone.

Pastor