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What ah must do?

DEAR PASTOR,

I enjoy reading the advice that you give to people. At age 15, I got pregnant and dropped out of school. My baby father took me in. He got a job and after I had the baby, he sent me back to school. I am now 18 and his family and I cannot get along.

I told him to rent somewhere in order to put the baby and I. He rented a place, and six months later he started coming home late and giving me less money. He started treating me badly, behaving as if he was all I had to depend on.

I went to my friend's house and she informed me that he had another woman living at his family's house. I went over to his house and one of his sisters tried barring me from entering his room, but I still was able to see that there was another girl in his room. When he came home, I asked him to move out. He started crying and apologising, but I never took him back.

Two weeks later, I met a man from America. He told me he would take care of me and my child because he loves me. We have been together for a while, and my child calls him dad. My problem is, I still have feelings for my baby father, but I love the American more. My baby father is also trying very hard to get me back. What should I do?

N.J., Kingston

Dear N.J.,

I suggest that you stick with the American fellow. He loves you and he shows it. Your child's father has used you, lied to you and his relatives have abused you.

Pastor

You think about him because of the connection both of you had and the child that both of you have together will surely remind you of your past. However he did not treat you well and you have move on.

If this American man will marry you and take your child and you to live with him in America, give thanks to God. Don't allow your child's father to get back into your life.

Pastor