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'Man talk'

DEAR PASTOR,

I am a 27-year-old woman who has a child for a man who lives abroad. Our relationship is not going well. Anyway my problem is I met this other guy who is 33 years old. I met him at my workplace and I have been seeing him since.

He started taking me home every evening, and we went out on weekends. As a result, the relationship became more than what I expected. I have one problem with him so far: he has a girlfriend. They live together and she is pregnant.

Something different

I really love him and he said he loves me. He said he wants nothing to come between us. When I asked him why he is in love with me, he said there was something different about me. Pastor I am confused. I love him, but I want to leave him. We broke up, but we got back together.

Please give me some advice. Pastor, I don't know what to do. I don't want to lose him.

K.W., St. James

Dear K.W.,

You can't have it both ways. Ask yourself this question: "Would I want my boyfriend to become involved with another woman?" Consider the matter carefully. The man is living with a woman and she is now pregnant. If you were in her position, would you want your man to become intimate?

Be careful

He told you that he likes you because you are different. What is different about you? Don't you know that what he is talking is just 'man talk'? Men tell women what they want to hear. Don't you know that?

One of these days, he will get you pregnant if you are not careful, and then he will drop you like hot cake. He is probably fooling around with you because he can't do the things that you would allow him to do with his pregnant girlfriend. Some men don't like to have sex with pregnant women.

Pastor