Tell Me Pastor

Not satisfying me anymore

Dear Pastor,

I am a Christian. I have been married for a long time, but lately I have been having problems with my husband.

He is not sleeping with me anymore, neither is he giving me any money. Sometimes he cooks for himself. I asked him why he does not give me money and he said that women must not get any money. He is a Christian and I would like to talk to my pastor but I am ashamed. I have children attending church and the pastor is younger than us.

Pastor, we have grandchildren living with us. I told him not to leave the keys with our grandchildren, and yet he did. One day, I came home and realised that they had searched my room. I still have not been able to find some of my things. I took off the keys as a result. He chopped off the room door because of this. I am so ashamed. Can you imagine this?

Pastor, I don't want to let down the church and I don't want to let down the work of God. Please tell me what to do. I am awaiting your reply.

E.B., Trelawny

Dear E.B.,

Your husband is a professor of Christianity. He needs to study his Bible because what he is doing to you is shameful. You are his wife and he is under moral obligation to give you money. The Bible says that a Christian man should support his house. The Bible says in 1 Timothy 5:8, "But if any provide not for his own and specially for those of his own house (family) he hath denied the faith and is worse than an infidel (unbeliever)." So your husband is a wicked man. After treating you like trash, he goes to church and sings choruses and shouts hallelujah. He is a big hypocrite.

Your husband is behaving as an ignorant man. If he has something against you, or is unhappy about a matter, both of you should go for counselling. Christian men ought to be kind, tolerant and loving to their spouses. They cannot act like beasts at home and at the same time pretend to be saints at church.

I therefore suggest that you ask your pastor to speak to both of you. He may be young but you must respect the position he holds and he would have a word from the Bible for both of you.

Pastor